As a little girl, I had no role model of a healthy relationship. My father was an alcoholic, verbally abusive, mean to my mother, and physically abusive to me and my siblings.
He was also a womanizer, then turning around and accusing my mom of being jealous and paranoid. I prayed that my mom would leave him, but we lived humbly as it was and I now know that between cultural beliefs and financial strain, this wasn’t an option for her. Many, many days we went to bed with screaming and yelling and woke up to it as well.
My parents finally did separate after 33 years. It wasn’t only until I got into high school and started hanging around in friend’s homes that I realized that a husband and wife actually spoke nicely to each other.
My parents were very traditional from the Philippines and as I grew into a young adult, and started dating, the emphasis was for me to get married. That’s it. Get married. Not marry the right guy, not find a man who is responsible, ambitious, or caring. It was just – get married.
It was only very late in life, did I realize that I had a deep underlying belief, that I was not good enough and not worthy of anything good (I didn’t even know what “good” was in a relationship!)
Nonetheless, I dated any guy that paid any attention to me, and by 22 I was pregnant with a “nice” handsome, tall, guy. (I say tall, because my Dad did say marry someone tall actually, being Filipino we have the genetics to be short — this was his idea of marriage advice!?)
I was still in university at the time and soon after the birth of my daughter, her father succumbed to being a non-thriving pothead. At this time, I myself developed similar anger and rage inherited from my father. This served me somewhat, as I was angry enough at him to leave him.
I always left the door open to him and he never walked through to be a father. And so I raised my daughter as a sole support parent, a true single mom, with no physical or financial support from her father.
I did date here and there and got married when my daughter was 5 years old. The marriage barely lasted 2 years. Is it surprising that I attracted a man with anger issues? And again, I was angry enough to know that I was not going to live the rest of my life to man with the same rage as my father and divorced him.
Again I dated here and there, but this time I wanted to be very careful who I brought into her life. In turns out the majority of my dates didn’t last too long anyways – they would mostly break up with me or I would do something to cause that. (Can you see a pattern here!??)
By the time my daughter was 13, I was finally in a long-term relationship of just over 2 years! A good-looking, fit man, 10 years my senior, with a daughter 4 years older than mine, attending a US college on a soccer scholarship. (It appeared that I was a sucker for good looks and with no substance!)
At his suggestion, we finally moved in together. So I packed up my house and we got ourselves a modern condo, the perfect place for my daughter, in the city hub with transit at our door.
Within 3 months of living together, he left his email open while “he traveled to visit his daughter at Eastern Michigan University” for the weekend.
Then I discovered he had been cheating on me for the last 3 months, all the while saying he was taking weekend trips to see his daughter. I was to find out that he had been cheating on me sporadically throughout our entire relationship. All the red flags had been there and I’d been too naive, feeble, and manipulated to listen to my instincts.
This completely broke me. I was 37 years old, I felt like the biggest failure. It was one of the darkest times in my life, I felt humiliated, guilty, ashamed, every negative emotion ran over me like a freight train. I not only failed me but I failed my daughter (again). How could I have allowed this to happen to me? What did she have that I didn’t? (Apparently, a lot because I even made a list!) What was wrong with me? A black cloud stayed over me.
This question cut me deep.
But I took it very seriously.
And went to work, deep inner work.
All my friends and family, said for me to be alone, take a break from men, work on myself – and they meant it with all kindness.
I took out all the tools that I had accumulated from all the self-development programs, workshops, courses, books, and videos that I had accumulated over the years, and implemented them all in my life. Within 4 weeks, the cloud started to lift. And I felt this overwhelming sense of love for myself, that I didn’t know could be possible. I became keenly aware that I did not love or respect myself before. This brought on inspiration and healing for me.
I thought, if I deny myself a relationship then he wins. If I deny myself the love that I truly deserve than it is only I, that loses out.
I then joyfully went back to online dating, this time, with a strict protocol in place, and in 2 weeks I met him, the ONE. Upon our second date we took down our profiles and a child and a blended family later its been 12 years. And together we have built a prosperous, ever-evolving, passionate, life together – more than I could ever dream.
The mess of life transformed me and now it’s my passion to help other women become their best self. To guide other women to renewal and inspiration.
The Magnetic Love Method is a 7-week program, designed for the single woman with a full life. With 40 easy-to-do lessons, practices, and guides, in addition, there are 7 weekly live 1-hour coaching sessions with me, to assist you in your transformation with grace and ease. (Recorded in case you miss it)
The process is simple and seamless, designed so that you enrich and enhance the best of you. You do not need to sacrifice or give up anything.
You’ll become empowered as you align with your inner desires, overcome hidden obstacles, develop more courage and confidence that overflows into your financial, professional life, and have an increase in physical vitality, joy, and vibrancy.
In this program you will:
This is my signature program upon which my life’s work and calling are built around. I am committed to guiding women to live a holistic, complete life, that is true to their most inner desires. You don’t have to be alone – unless this what truly makes you happy!
If you have an inkling of desire to be in a fruitful, prosperous, partnership, with someone who loves you deeply, cares for you, and accepts you for all that you are, someone to share the high’s and low’s of life with – then this is for you.
What is this worth to you?
I believe with all my being it is so very possible, it happened to me at a time when I was very broken and so confused.
I believe it can happen for you too, it starts with a simple intention. I hope you will explore it.
Let down your guard for just a moment, and open up yourself again to possibility.
I take a stand for all that is possible for you now — not for what happened to you or who you were in the past.
Choose this program if you have sincere intentions of amplifying your self-love and you’re ready to let go of doubt and skepticism about having an enriching partnership in the future.
And you are ready to live in total vitality and to honor yourself to the fullest.
Contact me if you have any questions or for enrollment details!
The next program begins on October 20th, 2020! Book a call now.
Group size is limited to only 8 women/those that identify as women.
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